Sunday, May 9, 2010

When a friend dies.....

Note: Hey, if you are expecting the usual sarcastic nonsense, please skip this one. It is neither sarcastic nor nonsensical , though it may appear nonsensical to you.































This one is personal.


When your friend dies....
Your first reaction is disbelief which stays on in varying degrees of intensity.
Then comes the anger and the frustration. Why was the friend taken from you? Was it somehow your fault? Could you have stopped it from happening? The disbelief is still there of course, which makes you ask these questions in the first place.
You keep calling the friend on their cell. Of course, the friend doesn't answer.
You wonder, if perhaps the friend is angry at you.
You check his social networking profiles.
Nothing has changed much there.
Disbelief is waning. Fear sets in. Maybe the friend is really not coming back. Ever.
You try calling and messaging again with as much success as your previous try.
The fear is overwhelming now.
You replay the memories. Disbelief intensifies.
How can it stop this way?
No explanations.
No chance for a farewell.
You lose the dolphin around your neck. The dolphin, which was the symbol of your friendship. The dolphin you wore around your neck for 3 years.
This confirms it more than the death certificate of the friend.
WIth this finality, you start accepting it.
Now, comes the big task of moving on. Cherising the memories and moving on.
Moving on...............





The first thing you do, in the process of moving on is BLOG about it!!
Moving on..
Right.
Who am I kidding?




PS: Steve Irwin said, it was ok to cry. But when the tears stop, you start moving on. But how to you start moving on, when the tears don't come at all?

8 comments:

Akshay said...

hmmmmm.............
I would just like to share my experience.....
If the tears dont come.........
try to be positive in your approach...
things don't always happen the way we want them to....
leave it to God and believe in God...
He knows best...
I am sure if you believe in God with ALL YOUR HEART....things would be positive for you.....
I have had a real life experience of something like this....
and now I am so positive in my approach in life....I couldn't even imagine myself being so positive.....
I have changed DRASTICALLY...maybe some magic has been spelled over me...
If you cant accept it....keep asking yourself question like..
"my friend died,Can I accept this?"
if your heart says no..nothing to worry ask yourself the same question again after a significant amount of time

And I am sure one day your heart will say "Yes".as my heart did.
Let the love for God always remain and everything will be fine.....

hope this helps.
take care :)

humbl devil said...

my condolences...
may his soul rest in peace..


have you tried screaming??
shut yourself up in a room and scream out the questions that are bothering you about his death..bring out all the anger to the surface...all the frustrations though the screaming and yelling..it helps...

spicymist said...

actually i screamed on the terrace :D And err this is the metaphorical part. The person didnt die! The friend died. The person is alive, just we are no longer friends

humbl devil said...

oho...
now the post and ur actions make actual sense..
bucle up buddy...he should come around...

spicymist said...

'he' is an assumption right? it is a he , but he aint some boyfriend. hes a friend, so infinitely more important.

humbl devil said...

i didnt mean a bf...
if i had then i wud have specifically mentioned the love angle...

spicymist said...

great. And nah, some things are better buried and expected to get better

spicymist said...

than*